"If someone wants to be a part of your life they'll make an effort to be in it. So don't bother reserving a space in your heart for someone who doesn't make an effort to stay"I've had a lot of issues with this lately. Feeling this way, questioning my feelings, questioning my friends, etc. But I want us all to think about this quote (and others like it) before we start using them and holding grudges like I have.
Here are my thoughts: If you're feeling this way isn't it possible that your friend (ex-friend, lover, whoever) could be feeling the same way too? That is assuming that you've just left it up to the other person to make all the friendly effort. If that's the case, then it's quite possible that the other person has the same feelings and is holding this same grudge against you thinking that you're not trying hard enough to be a friend so why even bother? But why cut them out prematurely if you don't even know what's going on?
Since I've been back home with my parents, and in a town filled with all my school friends, I've been very shy and reserved around friends. This is especially because they have jobs and I don't, and I figured that if/when they have free time they will contact me. But you see, the thing with being busy is that you forget a lot of things (friends included) and the ones that aren't "in your face" to hang out get pushed to the back-burner. But then again, there are friends who, even though they are extremely busy, will try their hardest to hang out with you. I feel like I've been pushed to the back, but then again, I'm not doing my best to put myself out there. There are two sides to every story.
I guess what I'm trying to have you get from this is that if you're making an effort and the other person isn't reciprocating, that's probably a good sign you should let them go. But if neither one of you are making an effort, and you still want to be friends, maybe you should be the one to step up and talk to them instead of continuing to let your anger and resentment build. Then if they don't reciprocate, feel free to hate and resent them all you like, lol.
